Having a Positive Relationship with Money

I have always struggled with money in some way. Usually with not having enough of it, but also with feeling bad about having any. This does not play well with trying to be an entrepreneur and making your own money (not receiving a regular paycheck). As an artist I often felt guilty for asking for money for my art. I was also easily moved to lower prices if anyone challenged them.

Then, this year I had a series of enlightened moments. In a particular situation regarding money, I become overwhelmed with negative feelings of guilt and sadness. Instead of closing the doors to those feelings as I’ve always done, I sat with them. I held them and explored where they came from.

As a child, I was raised by a single mother who was very poor. With three children to care for at a young age, Christmas was often filled with tears. Dinners were filled with guilt because my mom would go without so that we would have enough. Money became associated with the guilt and sadness. We didn’t discuss it and we didn’t ask for it. Sports, music, and school events were often forfeited because I couldn’t ask my mother for something she didn’t have and by asking would ultimately lead to more sadness and guilt.

I carried these negative feels into adulthood. It was only after having my own child that I added anger to the mix. I would lower prices for customers and then be angry at myself for not being compensated for my service or time, ultimately taking from my child and repeating the cycle.

I think its so important to understand our relationship with money. By understanding my feelings, I was able to put value onto what I do. I’m able to stand my ground and feel good about money when I get what I deserve and am able to feed my child and myself without tears and feelings of negativity.

It’s important to figure out our feelings towards money and why we feel this way. What I was the most surprised to find is when I stood my ground on my pricing for a painting, 90% of the time it sold anyway. Here’s to a New Year of building a healthy relationship with money!



About strokeofred

I am from Kansas and I have traveled all over the world. I am an artist, and I have a business brain. I love skirts and tennis shoes. I like to get dirty and ride motorcycles. I am sensitive and I can be mean. I love nature, and believe in protecting it. I love to laugh, and feel better after a good cry. I can be stubborn and impatient. I am constantly growing. I am open and free. I look to be inspired and love to inspire. I play guitar and secretly want to play drums. I have a puppy that brings me great joy. I love hugs, cuddling, holding hands...and wrestling. I love the mountains and the beach. I have to make a pilgrimage to the ocean at least twice a year to balance myself. I believe in balance in all things. Traveling is a passion, and meeting interesting people from all over the world is the perk! I have small town values, and big city dreams. I love beer, hate wine. I believe that what you put out comes back. I believe and live by the belief of treating others like you want to be treated. I enjoy stimulating conversation, and a good sense of humor. Caffeine is my drug of choice, and coffee over chess or good conversation is my luxury. I am strong but sometimes feel small. I strive to be my authentic me.
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